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Ladies, we make a lot of mistakes. Emotions often times becloud our sense of logical reasoning. Not all that glitters is gold. There are times when you think you’ve found the real deal, when in fact, you’re faced with a fake. A fake friend, the hype can sometimes make you want to believe that it’s the real thing. Sadly, some men have ways of faking their devotion to you, but only for the sole purpose of getting into your pants. A lot of women can fall for the sweet words, the little gifts and the promises of forever, only to see him scurrying away the moment she sleeps with him. How to know signs he is faking love to have $ex with you. I am not here to make you lose faith in men. But we can’t just sit back and watch as women are manipulated, tricked and lied to by men who just want to get some action. Below are some ways to spot a guy that only wants to hit it and quit it. #1 He never takes you out on a date .One thing a guy that is serious about you does is take you out on dates....

Imagine a two year old toddler being carried around because he can't walk yet. For two, three....ten years, he remained a toddler he once was without any growth or developmental changes being evident. His number of years kept increasing without a geometric progression in size, cognitive reasoning or biological development.No one wishes for such. That's how important change is in our lives not just morphologically but in every facet of life one can ever think of. Whether we are working inside a small team in a non-profit organization or in a large multinational conglomerate, dealing with change is the ongoing challenge. Change forces us to adapt. In life, our adaptability defines how successful or resilient we are in dealing with change. Resilience is our ability to bounce back and recover from adverse conditions and our innate ability to respond resourcefully in our environment. As the pressure to deal with change increases upon everyone, we need to be increasingly virtu...

Tunde has a well paid job which he held firmly for over 6 years. Renting a three bedroom flat apartment in Osakpa lekki can be terribly expensive but he went for it to suit his taste for luxury. Most times, he eats in restaurants especially those days none of his bevy of ladies paid him a visit. He's a flamboyant sanguine too generous and highly exuberance for his age as he's always hosting parties and basking in its euphoria. Looking at Tunde and his extravagance from afar, you definitely will count him among those men most favoured to have everything working out for them but is this assertion true- I'll distinctly answer in negative as my reasons will surface soon. His most recent girlfriend questioned why he doesn't have a car yet. Having a great job which pays all the bills of his frequent weekend parties, paying enormous amount for his rented apartment with each of the rooms well furnished beyond what an average bachelor can afford, yet no car, sends a wrong...

Its really amazing how 'we' ladies fear the possibility of remaining unmarried for a long time stretching into our late twenties and thirties. I have seen countless number of spinsters visit many prayer houses to seek spiritual guide and advice just to be a Mrs and while so many will quickly come out to say they are unperturbed while deep inside of them they hope that they just find the “right man” fast enough and start raising a family before reaching their menopause age. Watching your friends marry and start raising her kids can cause anxiety at times in an unmarried woman....Yes, that's the truth. You feel as though you are wasting your time and running out of patience. We need to understand life isn't a competition as no one was born exactly the same second as we were born. Not every woman is destined for early marriage. Even when suitors starts coming for your hand in marriage in your teen years, it's still not a guarantee for early marriage as no one know...

"Ola is one of those ladies described as being born with silver spoon. Her father, a great magnate and political juggernaut has a questionable destructive devotion to political affairs. His strings of wealth is so massive like erythrocytes constantly produced in the bone marrow. He's so successful that his fame spread abroad. Unfortunately, his daughter, Ola happened not to acquire that tactful, able-to-conquer aspect of him. She's too docile, overly malleable. Her father often scold her, expressing his dissatisfaction over her tractable behaviour. 'We live in a harsh world full of villains. Softness puts you at the mercy of people around you, Build your mind and control your emotion. The rain of advices showered by his father failed on deaf ears. Having gotten a high second class upper division degree, she has achieved the greatest thing she can ever work hard for. She doesn't need further studies nor professional qualifications. After four year...

Don't be taken aback by the caption I chose to give this.No better word exist to dilute the title with something more soothing or less offensive. I remember the words of Alexandre Dumas "A man who doubts himself is like a man who enlists in the ranks of the enemy and bears arms against himself. He makes his failure certain by being the first to be convinced of it." "Emeka was a young man that any woman will indulge in acetic fasting just to hear him propose. He was blessed with unique features so rare to find in men of 21st century...he was too homely, graced with high culinary skills and kind hearted . He graduated from the university, packed his luggage and travelled back to his village to take care of his aged parents...(His excuse). He is the third son in a family of four men and one pretty lady. His siblings left their rickety house in search of greener pastures in the city yet Emeka did not flinch. He's so comfortable with village life ...

The fact you're still young doesn't mean you have all the years and time in the world to mess around.Your youthful period is a period of productivity, resourcefulness, versatility and working with dexterity. If you don't do what you ought to do in your twenties, don't be surprise when you find yourself where you ought not to be in your sixties. We always think we still have a long way to go forgetting each day we sleep and wake brings us closer to our graves. The world needs you and I to make it better.The world cries out for young people who will distinguish themselves with every form of distinctiveness. Walking along with the crowd seems to be the trend of events hitherto, I wish they know walking with the crowd means you'll equally get lost in the crowd. The world doesn't need a chorus answer but a solution-oriented voice. An answer is not necessarily the solution. Every answer is not a solution but every solution is an answer. My question f...

Relationships could be friendships, marriage, etc. Whichever one it is, can be assassinated by some vices which one could term little but these little make disastrous impact which gives rise to adverse effect on the long run. I choose to call them "Relationship Killers" because they squeeze or choke life out of relationships. Sometimes, they kill at a stroke, other times, they Kill in bits. Whichever method they use, their prime goal is to squeeze out life. These killers can't kill without a setup, method or mechanism. The first mechanism is: Harsh startup - The most obvious indicator that a discussion or marriage is not going to go well is the way it begins. Here's a story to illustrate this ; Dara immediately becomes negative and accusatory when Oliver broaches the subject of housework, she's ready to be sarcastic. "Or lack thereof," she says. Oliver tries to lighten things up by cracking a joke: "Or the book we were talking abo...

Cheating seems to be so prevalent today that the question isn't who is cheating but rather – who isn't? Too many treat their most important relationships casually and their commitments as optional. Our microwave mentality has infiltrated our most sacred institution: MARRIAGE. We even have a reality show called Cheaters that is designed to reveal an indiscretion and exploit the humiliation on national television. I'm not sure which is more devastating – discovering your lover's unfaithfulness or discovering the crushing news at the same time as you watch a TV channel. We live in a very sad day and age. I have seen first-hand the destruction of cheating. It devastates relationships and shatters dreams. If you have entertained the idea of cheating on your spouse or significant other, let this serve as your official warning. Your handsome boss, cute office secretary or sultry neighbor down the street comes with a price tag that you cannot afford. Before yo...

He is in love with me and his Ex at the same time... Sir, I met a guy a month ago, and we defined our relationship. But just two weeks into the relationship, he suddenly stopped calling or showing care. When I enquired, he said his ex-girlfriend has come back. He said he was sorry and didn't want to hurt me, but he is confused as he loves her and also loves me. After this dispute, I realised that I am also in love with him. Since then, I can't sleep or eat. I have cried to God telling him to take away this love if it wasn't real, but the more I tried, the more I see that I love him. Please what do I do? Dear Lady, falling in love is first a choice, not a feeling. Please don't be overtly spiritual. Generally, we have the EMOTIONAL mind and the LOGICAL mind, and often, they can be in conflict. A simple example is this, "Your emotional mind loves lots of sugar in your tea, but your logical mind tells you that it will destroy your health." You ...

One stormy night many years ago,an elderly man and his wife entered the lobby of a small hotel in Philadelphia. Trying to get out of the rain, the couple approached the front desk hoping to get some shelter for thenight. "Could you possibly give us a room here?" The husband asked the clerk, a friendly man with a winning smile, looked at the couple and explained that there were three conventions in town."All of our rooms are taken,"the clerk said. "But I can't send a nice couple like you out into the rain at one O'clock in the morning. Would you Perhaps Be Willing To Sleep In My Room? It's not exactly a suite, but it will be good enough to make you folks comfortable for the Night." When the couple declined, the young man pressed on. So the couple agreed. As he paid his bill the next morning, the elderly man said to the clerk," You are the Kind of manager who should be the boss of the best hotel in the United States....

"A young man was madly lusting after the beauty of his half-sister. Each time he looks at her, his heart skips a beat. Her face shines like the sun and radiates the kind of beauty he's yet to see on the face of the earth. Is it her smile? Just the way the receptacles of the petals widens once they blossom giving way to the hidden beauty of the flower, that's exactly how her smile accentuates her beauty which fortunately was not hidden but conspicuous enough for everyone especially him to see. Her breast stands like towers, firm and strong. He has never seen them but has touched them severally in his world of imagination. Which one could he talk about and forget the other? Is it her demeanour, her charisma and carriage, in fact, the way her hips wobble ceaselessly when she walks distinguishes her among all women in the city. Her speech? Never will she utter a word without it being accompanied by her smiles. Both are already an item she simply cannot do without the other...

Most people think that emotional madness is a definition of true love. You are mistaken. That is bondage and the earlier you free yourself from the shackles of this bondage, the better for you. I believe when you went through my penultimate write-up "Are you in Love (Part 1)" you understood the fact that loving yourself is paramount. Its a prerequisite for you to have regard for yourself and love yourself strong enough to work out your life visions, accomplish your goals and achieve your ambitions. Love in itself is not a deposit rather Its a CHOICE. Its not like an anointing. You don't pray and wait until the Spirit of God stirs it inside you. Its in you already yet a lot of people don't understand its need. Love is a responsibility. It doesn't happen until you are committed to it. Until you practice it, it doesn't work. Love is not a verbal grammatical display. Saying I Love You when its not backed by the right action is a waste of lexical construction....

This afternoon, I was brooding over a lot of events that has happened in my life. Was taking stock of how my journey in life has been while sitted within the confines of my room. Yesterday, being 1st October 2015 marks the 55th year Nigeria gained her independence and we all know how the trend of events has been in this country ever since. See, this piece of writing is not about the complexity of Nigeria nor any of her complicated problems, rather my question today is directed to no one but you. Our country gained her independence long time ago and every 1st October, she reviews and reevaluates her budgets so as to know where she stands. "Where are you?" is a rhetorical question that you don't just laugh over and give the first answer that comes to mind. You need to sit, sober reflect, contemplate and critically analyze the answer that comes to your mind. What have you achieved so far? What tremendous impact have you made in the lives of people around you? Are you i...

The most misunderstood feeling of all times which people are never sure of is the subject of discussion today and I will publish a series of writings on this subject this week. Love has been defined by many in divers manners, such as, an affectionate feeling, care and concern for something or someone, passion or compassion and the description go on and on. While teaching in a classroom sometime ago, a student asked me "Who God is? My answer was "God is a mystery ". I further explained this to him, 'the more you know about Him, the more you discover you know nothing about Him. 1 John 4:8b says, "For God is Love ". With a mathematical approach, one can simply describe love as the feeling of God. So, if God is love and God is a mystery, then love is equally a mystery. The sweetest thing about mysteries is that they are revealed to certain people and today,I will reveal one of the mysteries of love. Love is a person that binds two people together under no...

Are you stunned at the fact that a woman is writing in favour of the male folks? You need not be dazed nor gripped in a faze as I solve this jigsaw puzzle. I chose to begin this way, Man, unlike woman, is beautiful, because man, unlike woman, is a thinking creature. This means,Man has a thirst for knowledge (he wants to know what the world around him looks like and how it functions).   Man thinks (he draws conclusions from the data he encounters).   Man is creative (he makes something new out of the information achieved by the above processes).   Man is sensitive (as a result of his exceptionally wide, multidimensional emotional scale, he not only registers the commonplace in fine gradations but he creates and discovers new emotional values and makes them accessible to others through sensible descriptions, or recreates them as an artist). Of all the qualities of man, which I can't exhaust, his curiosity is certainly the most impressive. His curiosity differs basically...

A promising young monster had a dream of becoming a Scarer. That was his dream, his ambition , all he has ever prayed and lived for. He kept nursing his dream as he kept writing series of examinations just to gain admission into Monsters University. He failed severally till the day he got lucky and gained admission into the University. His first day in school, he observed what he never ever had thought about nor ever given a consideration which is "he is too handsome to be a monster".  All the monsters in his school looks like MONSTERS indeed. His handsomeness became his greatest challenge. Aside being a handsome monster, he's equally the smallest in size among his mates. Other monsters are gigantic in size and look like scarers but he looks so small.  This young monster was ridiculed by his mates, his lecturers, and was advised to quit nursing his dream of becoming a SCARER but he held on. He was determined to become a SCARER . Yeah! he read  extensively, he studie...

Sometime ago I did something very nasty. I had some sachets of beverage which I started to use for tea but there was a problem, this tea product, would expire in few days. One day after the supposed expiry date, I picked up this beverage sachet and kept looking at it and it dawned on me that what was written there was not EXPIRY DATE but rather BEST BEFORE. I thought again, with this funny revelation I realized that what the manufacturer was saying is, this product is best used before so and so date but once its past that date, its BETTER afterwards and if its stays longer it becomes GOOD because it actually can't Jump from BEST to WORST. It has to go through GOOD, BETTER, BEST and probably come back through the same path! Well, I drank the stuff and praise God I've been alive since then, wait....Before you run off and start drinking expired products, note, whatever you take is at OWNERS' RISK, that was the last 'expired stuff' I ever took. But here is my point...

Anxiety does not give you the size of your future. It gives you the size of your fears...There are people you were far better than but today, they are far better than you. Do you know why?. They never had the time you had in worrying about too many things. Winners don't rest on the foot of the mountain to count its height. They only count from its top when they are already there. Thats when they make their own fears if they have one really. Most mistakes people make don't come from necessities. They come from unnecessary fear. Nobody thought of using the stone on Goliath for 40 days. Rather, they thought of his size and records. We know how to think on the records of something. A woman can tell you, 'If I don't get married before I'm 40, menopause will catch up with me' and a man can say "if I don't get a well paid job, no woman will ever accept my hand in marriage ". She would tell you thousands of women who married late and things that happen...