ARE YOU IN LOVE (Part 3).

He is in love with me and his Ex at the same time... Sir, I met a guy
a month ago, and we defined our
relationship. But just two weeks into the relationship, he suddenly
stopped calling or showing care. When I enquired, he said his
ex-girlfriend has come back. He said
he was sorry and didn't want to hurt me, but he is confused as he
loves her and also loves me. After this
dispute, I realised that I am also in love with him. Since then, I
can't sleep or eat. I have cried to God telling him to take away this
love if it wasn't real, but the more I tried,
the more I see that I love him. Please what do I do? Dear Lady,
falling in love is first a choice, not a feeling. Please don't be
overtly spiritual. Generally, we have the
EMOTIONAL mind and the LOGICAL mind, and often, they can be in
conflict. A simple example is this, "Your emotional mind loves lots of
sugar in your tea, but your logical mind tells you that it will
destroy your health." You don't pray for feelings to go away. You make
decision on feelings, and enforce them. And when you are consistent,
and DO NOT KEEP FEEDING THE FEELINGS, then they adjust back to our
logical mind. Sadly, many of us focus and dwell our thoughts on those
feelings of care, gifts, and anticipated romance of the future. We are
reminded of the good times we had together, forgetting that those
feelings are not peculiar to
the guy we received it.

All humans feel love when they receive love. It is not peculiar to a
particular guy. This is the reason why many of us fall in love with
more than one person in our life time. It is the same reason why
someone whose wife/husband dies, can mourn him/her for a few
years, move on, and fall in love again with someone else. By my
hypothesis of the magnetic field of love, I teach that anyone, male or
female, can fall in love with each other, in an atmosphere of care,
attention, and respect, given they
have time and opportunity."Now, some Christians turn this to a prayer
point. They break the principle and hope that prayer will reverse it.
This
is sad. As we keep feeding the fire, we simply re-ignite the fire, and
then term it love......then we crawl on our knees and pray to God to
intervene... When GOD does not intervene, the believer turns it into a
testimony and a sign...."Pastor, God must be the one telling me to
love him"....and the evil circle continues.....then, they
experience a painful heartbreak, and lose faith in God and often, in themselves.

Listen to me authoritatively: A man CANNOT BE IN LOVE WITH TWO PERSONS
AT THE SAME TIME.
Jesus says, NO MAN can serve two masters. You cannot give true
committal, and responsible love to two woman at the same time. He is
certainly mixing up his emotions, his
will, and his imaginations. Until he settles down, counts the cost,
and STOPS JUMPING from one girl to another, he will be confused. He
just left one girl, saw another girl, and
immediately asked her out.... She, on the other hand, just saw a guy
and in two weeks she is madly in love..... Hear me: Attraction may be
instantaneous, but love takes time.
...... Time enough to know who a person is, what a person stands for,
and more importantly, where a person is heading to.......Both of you
DO NOT KNOW THE MEANING
OF LOVE.. ...
Wisdom and knowledge is the answer to that long prayers
with God. "With all thy getting, get wisdom, get understanding," saith
the scriptures. The fact that you are
not sleeping and eating WILL NOT CHANGE THE WORD OF GOD. I'm sorry
you've had to go through such pain, but its time to address your
ignorance.

Tekena Ikoko.

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