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"BIG GIRL SYNDROME"




We live in a covetous world. Most times, we want to have what others have and look like others which simply mean we are patterning our lives to become whom we are not because the easiest thing to be is "Yourself". I remember 2012 my Final year in UNN, I needed a Laptop desperately and I wanted a brand new Laptop. Unfortunately, I didn't have enough cash. Father suggested a fairly used one but I bluntly refused insisting on buying one worth 90k or not buying any at all. "Ijeoma, why must you insist on a brand new laptop when you can get a fairly used which is even better than some of these new ones? I couldn't sputter a word of explanation, plausible enough to satiate and convince this great disciplinarian Father of mine. Some Years later, when I've earned enough to afford myself some luxuries, brand new laptop was totally off my list. I bought a fairly used one which serves me perfectly till date. This morning, I was just ruminating over some issues in preparation for the coming year and I asked myself" Why did I insist on buying a brand new laptop in 2012 and years later when i've worked my ass off to earn legit money, i went for a fairlyused"?


If i must be sincere enough to tell you my reason, you'll be dazed. Frankly speaking...i wanted a brand new laptop because almost every student was using a brand new laptop ( so i thought). Yes, i know i can be too ambitious with a thirst for Quality but it was obvious i couldn't afford 90k then. The funniest part of the whole thing was...i later discovered that most of my colleagues back then bought fairly used laptops but i was too naive to have thought it was brand new they were all using. Just the way i missed the mark back then, many of us are still missing the mark hitherto. We see what others have and we still want to have such by all means without knowing how they got it. This channels us into my topic "THE BIG GIRL SYNDROME". Most people have cut their clothes more than their coats and end up where the least expected simply because they want to be like others. The frequency of this tendency is pronounced among the female folks. Both the media, and even producers are bombarding us with the Latest Ankara designs, designer outfits, latest wrist watches, brazillian hairs, Perruvian hairs, bla-bla- bla hairs , latest costmetic to give you perfect looks(but we all know that perfect look last while the makeup still veneers our faces) boobs and ass enlargement creams...oh Lord, the list is inexhaustible. This put we ladies under undue pressure to have the latest because the person with the latest is a BIG GIRL. I wonder how the societal trends have managed to engrave certain unbiblical trends on the tablet of our hearts.

Most ladies without control of the inherent insatiable nature of mankind go out of their way to ensure they join the *Fashion madness in our Generation even when they can't afford it* . If you can afford the luxuries....ohhh fine and good, but if you can't, just save yourself the strees because you may not afford it at the moment but years later, you can afford all that and more.  We always misunderstand this conception "Big Girl". The fact that different guys pick you up every Friday night does not make you a big girl. The fact that you wear all the latest clothes in the market, does not make you a big girl, And of the fact that you use the latest phone & different guys pay money into your account does not make you a big girl... THEN WHO IS A BIG GIRL?!. A big girl is a girl with enough brain in her, Not the one with more money as the society wants us to think. She is not the one who flirts with all the men around her. She is the girl who respects her relationship & marriage. She is never heard but seen. You know her from what she does, her behaviour speaks a lot about her. She is every man's queen, decently dressed... A big girl respects the values of womanhood... She carries herself with more dignity... Stop
boasting about the number of men you've slept with my dear.. Remember, cheap articles have more buyers..

Build Yourself into the woman that people will always respect & admire. Never follow men who will make a mess of your life. Be bold but humble, be Godly.. Be hard working, respect your relationship or marriage, Be ambitious but contempted.. Don't make men a priority in life.. Real men will seek after you! Build yourself into the woman men will always want to take home to their mamas.. Not the one they only want to take to hotels & clubs.

A lady without morals & dignity is like a phone without a sim card...

IT IS A Sunday WAKE UP CALL TO MY LADIES.....Happy Sunday Great people


Esther ijeoma Ogbuka.
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