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Dear Mummy.

Dear Mummy, Have you seen how beautiful I've grown to become? Can you see what this beautiful makeup artist, Peace Wofi Kelly did to my face? I was blinking endlessly when she was recreating my looks for the interview but she pampered me and was so loving and patient with me. I couldn't help but crush on myself while it last Finally, the interview is over and the day gone But I have a lot of worries locked on my inside I needed to talk to you and ask some serious questions I know you won't hesitate to answer I needed us to sit and dialogue the way we used to before you journeyed to the world beyond These questions banging my head, worries demented on my mind are choking me. Can you hear me, Mum? Can you just talk to me once again, maybe in the dream or any possible way I can understand? I've tried my best to abide by the guidance you gave when we were younger and I've grown to be a lady I know you're proud of. I am contented and hav
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AN OPEN LETTER TO MIRACLE IKECHUKWU, BBNaija 2018 Winner by Esther Ijeoma Ogbuka.

Dear Miracle, You won the admiration of many with your tenacity, strong will and never-say-never kind of spirit. Your competitive nature was second to none, as you constantly gave us nothing but your very best. You were intentional in your moves as well as very calculated in your attempts. You shuned every form of distraction and never allowed love get in your way. In your eyes, I saw zeal...in your approach, I saw focus...in your spirit, I saw a force no one in the house could reckon with. . . Just the same way rockets launch forth unrestrained, you Aced your way through and we couldn't help but fall in love with your intelligence and highly competitive nature. To all these, I say you deserve the #45 Million and all the glamour attached to your win. . . Presently, the Double Wahala has taken off the shores of South Africa, down to Nigeria and further stretched to the land of Imo. You're indeed an illustrious son and have done your state proud. Amidst all these, I hav

Make Effective use of your Time.

Time  management behaviors are very much a matter  of choice. You choose to be efficient or you choose to be  disorganized. You choose to focus and concentrate on your highest-value tasks,  or you choose to spend your time on activities that contribute little value  to your life. And you are always free to choose. Why spend half of your day chatting online when you can use that same time and run some online courses? The starting point of overcoming your previous programming, and eliminating the mental blocks to time management, is for you to make a clear, unequivocal decision to become absolutely excellent at the way you use your time minute-by-minute and hour-by-hour. You must decide, right here and now, that you are going to become an expert in time management. Your aim should be to manage your time so well that people look up to you and use you as a role model for their own work habits.

MEN GO AFTER WHAT THEY WANT.

Men go after what they want. A woman should not be under any impression that she is the woman a man wants to be with. Your cooking skills, sex moves and Christian like attitude may not guarantee you a space in his heart. Only a man knows what he wants and till he finds it,  everything you do will hardly make sense to him. If you have done more than this and feel you deserve more. If you have given everything and he still treats you like a nobody... It's time to move on. You ain't what he wants. It doesn't mean you ain't valuable. It doesn't mean that you have nothing to offer. It doesn't make him an evil man....... It's simply a case of you not being the woman he wants to be with. Out there, on the streets is a man looking for someone like you. He will do anything to be with you. So why waste your time and lose sleep over someone who doesn't see you in his future? Don't waste time in an unproductive relationship. Don't beat

THE BETRAYALS OF WOMEN.

How trustworthy are your female friends? Do you tell them all your secrets? How many men you have been with? How many abortions you have had and how good your man is in bed? How you snatched Chioma's boyfriend. How the son you have with Tony don't belong to him.... The problem of women most times is caused by their fellow women. They gossip and spread rumours about each other. They don't mind dating a man who is in a relationship or married to their friends. It is common knowledge among the male folks that one of the easiest women to take to bed are usually the friends of your girl friend or wife.  Once they are jealous of her, they become easy targets. They arrange to meet the man, telling him stories about his girlfriend or wife. They tell him secrets about his woman. Secrets he doesn't know about. Many relationships have been broken because the man most times acts on this secrets and calls off the relationship or marriage. If the man is rich, handsome a

Virus...A lesson from the movie "3 idiots".

If you haven't seen the celebrated Bollywood "3 idiots"... I rest my case. For those of us that deemed it necessary to see a movie that could teach one more about friendship and true education than anything else can, I like to invite us to take a closer look at one of the characters of that groundbreaking movie. Not Rancho. Virus. If one were asked to draw up a list of lessons gleaned from the Rancho character, I believe that the list will be endless. The reason is not farfetched: in him is no guile; he is a perfect human being in every sense of that word. What about Virus? Everything was wrong with the man. For driving his own son to suicide, his daughter Pia accused him of murder. For driving his student, Joy Lobo, to suicide, Rancho accused him of murder. In one word, he was the Hitler of Imperial College of Engineering, ICE. While we take Virus for an undesirable element, we shouldn't forget to imbibe the one thing that was great about him: Time management

FALZ...I KNOW YOU'RE THE BAHD GUY, BUT DON'T JOIN THE BAD WAGON. Celebrity BabyMama...the most lucrative Nigerian Business. Written by Ijeoma Esther Ogbuka

The "Baby Mama", "Baby daddy" syndrome is almost eating up the fabrics of our society and infusing its poisonous venom in every facet especially the entertainment industry. It is fast becoming the most lucrative business in Nigeria for ladies to give birth out of wedlock so long as the biological father is a celebrity or Super star. You both secretly went into the room, did what you did with legs spread, that wasn't enough. You went ahead to give us evidence of what you ate in the secret, behind the watchful eyes of your friends and fans. I guess the door was secured with lock and keys as well probably under dim green or red bulbs. Being a celebrity Baby Mama is fast becoming a means to acquire fame, and other benefits that comes with it if the "Baby daddy" in question is well known and very talented especially in the music world or the entertainment industry. Ladies struggle, hustle and pass through burning furnace just to have a child for these m

I AM A MAN!!!... SO WHAT? ( The silent Agony of the male folks)

Ladies always think the society and every force that be works alternatively for most of their misfortune. In a world where both genders expected to complement each other are busy pointing accusing fingers, women especially think they're rare specie more than the male folks and no one have ever taken a single minute to consider what men pass through daily, simply because they don't complain. Men suffer in silence unlike women that makes noise, shout and scream at just a slightest of pain. Its never easy to be a man. Viewing through their lens, I concur to the fact that God foresaw a lot ahead and purposely gave men the power to dominant because they're the best fit for that role. 1.Because I am a man, I always have to make the first move in almost everything because that's what's expected of me at every point in time. Once I fail in taking the first step which I'm unsure of what the outcome will be, I'm tagged a weakling, a coward and a woman simply becaus

I AM A WOMAN!!!.... so what?

I AM A WOMAN!!! - So what? I get into an argument with a man, he slaps me, I feel the pain, my eyes turn red, my cheek burns like fury, i cry, i wail, i cringe in pain and sought for rescue. I saw the crowd ( men and women gathering), a sense of hope springs forth, justice will finally appear unscathed. I explain myself, the best way i could, in words so clear like crystals, he was obviously wrong yet they told me I provoked him. I should have been quiet, I should have been patient. I should apologize to him, don't I know he's a man? I get into an argument with a man which led to an assault, I slap him, they tell me I have no respect, no home training. I should have been quiet, I should have been patient. I should apologize to him, Ajo Nwanyi. Because I am a woman, I don't have a right to be angry. So, the degree of my innocence is directly proportional to the degree of my silence in the face of oppression and brutality..... I should always and forever remain at th

12 DEADLY MISTAKES MEN MAKE IN RELATIONSHIPS.

We all know that relationships can be tough. They begin with an awkward dating period where both persons are on their best behavior. After a few months, those curtains start to unravel and you begin to see shadows of the real person. Men often make a number of relationship blunders during these crucial initial phases, and I'm here to help you recognize the 12 worst ones. If you're just getting started in a relationship, or part of a long-term affair, get pen and paper. (Or, you could just print it!). You'll want to keep track of these tips. 1)Giving a woman too much power. Guys usually get into trouble when they allow a woman to have too much (if not all) of the control in a relationship. She decides when you go out; she decides when you Be Intimate; she decides which friends you can keep; and may even decide what color slacks you should wear to a party. These types of scenarios are classic examples of a man believing that he doesn't deserve to be with a certain t

FACTS ABOUT THE HYMEN AND VIRGINITY

A virgin is a person who has never had any form of sexual intercourse before being it *penovaginal, anal or oral SEX* ....period! Couple of years back, in order to encourage people who have had sex before to abstain, the term *secondary virginity* was introduced. *Hymen*: _is a thin membrane that partly covers the vagina. There are different types of hymen and some can even cover the vagina entirely (imperforated)._ Unfortunately, a lot of people use the presence or absence of the hymen to determine a female's virginity. That can be very deceptive because there are so many ladies out there without their hymen but have never had sex before. Sadly, they are expected to bleed on their first sexual intercourse and if it doesn't happen, then it means they told a lie. This controversy has gone on for decades and still going on. A lot of boyfriends and husbands have all lost trust for their partners due to this issue of virginity. _Is there anything which determines that

YETSHE STAYED..

One question I have always asked myself about girls and women who are domestically abused which is one thing common with them all is "why stay? Sweet heart, why stay? This people, for one or two reasons will stay or even give the relationship a second, third, fourth chance, and infinite no of chances. Because they believe that things can change. The man can change. Truth is that the man in question might not get to change if strict and absolutely right measures are not taken. Tricia A woman in her late 30ies. A mother of three kids. It all started the first day she confront her husband. Honey, "why are you coming back by this time"? This is not how you used to be.. Let's be the way we were before we had kids. I need the man I married not a 'drunkard". The inebriated husband gifted her a slap whose sound woke up their neighbours. But then, she stayed. Reason: because of my kids. No, the kick boxing didnt not stop because she gave him reason to c