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"I got the shock of my life 4 days ago. Last Saturday, I met a childhood friend, who also doubles as my family doctor. We had an extensive discussion, reminiscing over our childhood days. We talked about many things, our secondary school adventures, old class mates, and so on. Our discussion turned sour when he told me about his secondary school crush, Bims, who recently died of cervical cancer. May her gentle soul rest in peace I muttered. He further went on to tell me about cervical cancer, a cancer peculiar to females. The cause of cervical cancer is Human Papilloma Virus and how it is transmitted via sex. I had thought condom use protects against all forms of sexually transmitted infections but I was wrong, Human papilloma virus is an exception. This virus also causes genital warts in some cases, he said. He explained the deficiency in our country, that in saner climes, the vaccine is given to school age children especially between the ages 10 and12. Gardasil, the vaccine

"When you go after lust, you'll definitely get lost. If you wanna live forever, love you'll let go, never". You stumble across someone new, and whether it was the first words exchanged or the initial “I’ve got my eyes on you” approach, sparks are flying. You’ve got the nervous laughing going on, a weird flutter in your stomach, and did I mention the way his eyes sparkle? Everything is going great, and conversation is coming more naturally than you anticipated. This is what you’ve been waiting for, and before you know it- you’re hooked--- On lust. Soon enough, texts are being exchanged and maybe some plans are being put into place. (And hopefully, he’s the one doing the planning!). Nerves are definitely not going unnoticed, and you’re telling your friends all the great qualities you’ve found about this guy within your short span of getting to know one another. Of course they’ve seen *this* before, whether it was with you or another friend along the way. And by “

This is not a call for willpower or “grit.” This is not another admonishment of “no pain, no gain.” Personally, I wanted the reward and not the struggle. I wanted the result and not the process. I was in love not with the fight but only the victory but sadly, I realized life doesn’t work that way. Everybody wants what feels good. Everyone wants to live a carefree, happy and easy life, to look perfect, make more money, become popular, well-respected, mostly admired and a total baller to the point that people part like the Red Sea when you walk into the room. Everyone including I would love that — it’s easy to wish for such but If I ask you, “What do you want out of life?” and you say something like, “I want to be happy and have a great family and a job I like,” it’s so ubiquitous that it doesn’t even mean anything. A question perhaps you’ve never considered before, is what pain do you want in your life? What are you willing to struggle for? Because that seems to be a greater deter

Whatever your spouse's reason, remember you are not to blame. The first question that comes to mind when a spouse cheats is: Why? The reasons behind infidelity differ greatly between the sexes. For men, it's typically about the sex—the more sexually excitable they are, the more likely they are to cheat. For women, it's more about the level of satisfaction in her relationship; if a woman is unhappy in her marriage, she's 60% times more likely to cheat. Regardless of the reason, there's one thing that's certain: infidelity is devastating. However, there can be a silver lining. "In many cases, it forces issues to the surface of a relationship that would have never otherwise been dealt with," . Read on to discover what life lessons these five women gained through their personal experiences with infidelity—and what you can learn from their stories. "MY HUSBAND WAS ABUSIVE." "From the day I married my husband, I knew it was a m

Taiwo, with his identical twin brother, Kehinde (34) and their friend, identified simply as Jeje were said to have gone to Paulson hotel, on Anibaba Street to book for a room for the latter’s girlfriend who would be returning to the country Saturday night. On reaching the hotel, they were reportedly accosted by a gun wielding Mobile pliceman, Sergeant Stephen James, attached to MOPOL 22, Ikeja, who demanded for a bottle of beer. It was gathered that one of the guests told the visitors not to buy any alcoholic drink for him (policeman) as he had already taken three bottles of beer and a local drink popularly called Alomo bitters. But Sergent James was said to have threatened to shoot them if they refused to do his bidding. The guests, cautioned him to comport himself in a manner befitting of a responsible security agency, unknown to them that they had incurred Sergeant James’ wrath. Report had it that while the trio were leaving the premises, Sergeant James corked his riffle and o

Don't give me that weird look and don't ever think Esther is insane just because of this caption. Its mostly the heart cry of many ladies and equally the expectations of most men that has a sister of marriageable age. You must have heard this from one of your female friends....“I desire a God-fearing man with the wisdom of TD Jakes, the body of Will Smith and the swag of Lucious Lyon (Terrence Howard). I want a man with loads of money to throw around. He doesn’t have to be as rich as Steve Jobs, or live in a gigantic house or Pent-house suite,but he should at least own a grandiloquent mansion. He doesn’t have to own a private jet, but he should be able to purchase a first-class ticket whenever I need to travel.” Is that too much to ask for? “Hold on! Enough of...‘I need! I need! I need!’” What are you bringing on board? Yes! You can try for a million years, but a porous basket will never work as a vessel to hold water. Here’s another way to look at it: what use would it

The nipples of a woman is sensitive than her entire body. Just the same way this erogenous body part enjoys pleasure, that's exactly the same way it abhors irritation which could be of great discomfort. Here's a continuation of things that could cause sore on the nipples. 1)Medication Could Be Causing A Reaction" Interestingly,some psychological medications are known to cause nipple reactions . Various antidepressants, from SSRIs to MAOIs, have been linked to nipple discharge, as have standard anti-psychotics, some anti-histamines, amphetamines, hormones, and some varieties of the Pill. Herbal remedies have also been shown to produce harmless breast discharge in some women, from fenugreek (which was, historically, used to promote milk flow and help digestive problems) to anise and fennel. So if you suddenly discover a soaked part in your bra, think back to whatever herbal fixes you've been taking recently, and always check side effects before you nab something

Health, they say is wealth. I want us to look into a sensitive topic which will help us understand the female body as well as take utmost care of it. A man once asked me...**Esther, can I contract an infection by sucking the nipples of my wife? I won't tell you my answer to that question. As you read, you will extract or decode the answer yourself. However, nipples aren't the window to the soul, but they can be pretty good signals of particular health conditions and changes to the breasts and hormones . There's no need for concern if yours are droopy, pronounced, small, big, hairy, whatever. The real reason for you to sit up and pay attention to your nipples is if they suddenly change in any way: produce something different, look a new shape, suddenly invert, hurt, or become really sore or itchy . After giving a brief talk on Sexually Transmitted Infections during our health facilitation program, a young lady signaled she wants to see me in Camera. Acknowledging that

"You gave him everything you had, your time, your love,  your heart, your everything. In return, he played the role of a good man until his price went up and he wanted more from you. So, you gave him more. But that still wasn’t enough, was it? Because when it’s the wrong man, nothing you do will ever be enough. He’s a parasite. He will continue to suck the life out of you until you are completely drained of all your money, all your confidence, all your self-esteem, and then he’ll leave you. You have the power to stop him. It’s often a hard decision to leave a man you think you love, but in the end, it may not be that you actually love him. It may be that you love the man he “used to be” or the idea of the man he “could be.” Either way, that’s not the man he is." “Sometimes, him being the wrong man isn’t the real problem. The real problem is you deciding to give him a chance, knowing he’s the wrong man, you can change him. "Never go into a relationship thinking y

When Peter and Ann began dating, her friends were envious. Peter was smart, sensitive, funny, athletic, and good-looking. Even her mom loved him. For the first couple of months, Ann seemed happy. She started to miss her friends and family, though, because she was spending more time with Peter and less time with everyone else. That seemed easier than dealing with Peter's endless questions. He worried aAnnbout what she was doing at every moment of the day. But Ann's friends became concerned when her behavior started to change. She lost interest in the things she once enjoyed, like swim meets and going to the mall. She became secretive and moody. When her friends asked if she was having trouble with Peter, she told them nothing was wrong. She began to avoid her friends and family. Peter's jealousy was increasing every day and his possessive attitude became questionable. He ensured she lost her friends and stuck to him alone. He made her believe her friends envies her and