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Relationships could be friendships, marriage, etc. Whichever one it is, can be assassinated by some vices which one could term little but these little make disastrous impact which gives rise to adverse effect on the long run. I choose to call them "Relationship Killers" because they squeeze or choke life out of relationships. Sometimes, they kill at a stroke, other times, they Kill in bits. Whichever method they use, their prime goal is to squeeze out life. These killers can't kill without a setup, method or mechanism. The first mechanism is: Harsh startup - The most obvious indicator that a discussion or marriage is not going to go well is the way it begins. Here's a story to illustrate this ; Dara immediately becomes negative and accusatory when Oliver broaches the subject of housework, she's ready to be sarcastic. "Or lack thereof," she says. Oliver tries to lighten things up by cracking a joke: "Or the book we were talking abo...

Cheating seems to be so prevalent today that the question isn't who is cheating but rather – who isn't? Too many treat their most important relationships casually and their commitments as optional. Our microwave mentality has infiltrated our most sacred institution: MARRIAGE. We even have a reality show called Cheaters that is designed to reveal an indiscretion and exploit the humiliation on national television. I'm not sure which is more devastating – discovering your lover's unfaithfulness or discovering the crushing news at the same time as you watch a TV channel. We live in a very sad day and age. I have seen first-hand the destruction of cheating. It devastates relationships and shatters dreams. If you have entertained the idea of cheating on your spouse or significant other, let this serve as your official warning. Your handsome boss, cute office secretary or sultry neighbor down the street comes with a price tag that you cannot afford. Before yo...

He is in love with me and his Ex at the same time... Sir, I met a guy a month ago, and we defined our relationship. But just two weeks into the relationship, he suddenly stopped calling or showing care. When I enquired, he said his ex-girlfriend has come back. He said he was sorry and didn't want to hurt me, but he is confused as he loves her and also loves me. After this dispute, I realised that I am also in love with him. Since then, I can't sleep or eat. I have cried to God telling him to take away this love if it wasn't real, but the more I tried, the more I see that I love him. Please what do I do? Dear Lady, falling in love is first a choice, not a feeling. Please don't be overtly spiritual. Generally, we have the EMOTIONAL mind and the LOGICAL mind, and often, they can be in conflict. A simple example is this, "Your emotional mind loves lots of sugar in your tea, but your logical mind tells you that it will destroy your health." You ...

One stormy night many years ago,an elderly man and his wife entered the lobby of a small hotel in Philadelphia. Trying to get out of the rain, the couple approached the front desk hoping to get some shelter for thenight. "Could you possibly give us a room here?" The husband asked the clerk, a friendly man with a winning smile, looked at the couple and explained that there were three conventions in town."All of our rooms are taken,"the clerk said. "But I can't send a nice couple like you out into the rain at one O'clock in the morning. Would you Perhaps Be Willing To Sleep In My Room? It's not exactly a suite, but it will be good enough to make you folks comfortable for the Night." When the couple declined, the young man pressed on. So the couple agreed. As he paid his bill the next morning, the elderly man said to the clerk," You are the Kind of manager who should be the boss of the best hotel in the United States....

"A young man was madly lusting after the beauty of his half-sister. Each time he looks at her, his heart skips a beat. Her face shines like the sun and radiates the kind of beauty he's yet to see on the face of the earth. Is it her smile? Just the way the receptacles of the petals widens once they blossom giving way to the hidden beauty of the flower, that's exactly how her smile accentuates her beauty which fortunately was not hidden but conspicuous enough for everyone especially him to see. Her breast stands like towers, firm and strong. He has never seen them but has touched them severally in his world of imagination. Which one could he talk about and forget the other? Is it her demeanour, her charisma and carriage, in fact, the way her hips wobble ceaselessly when she walks distinguishes her among all women in the city. Her speech? Never will she utter a word without it being accompanied by her smiles. Both are already an item she simply cannot do without the other...

Most people think that emotional madness is a definition of true love. You are mistaken. That is bondage and the earlier you free yourself from the shackles of this bondage, the better for you. I believe when you went through my penultimate write-up "Are you in Love (Part 1)" you understood the fact that loving yourself is paramount. Its a prerequisite for you to have regard for yourself and love yourself strong enough to work out your life visions, accomplish your goals and achieve your ambitions. Love in itself is not a deposit rather Its a CHOICE. Its not like an anointing. You don't pray and wait until the Spirit of God stirs it inside you. Its in you already yet a lot of people don't understand its need. Love is a responsibility. It doesn't happen until you are committed to it. Until you practice it, it doesn't work. Love is not a verbal grammatical display. Saying I Love You when its not backed by the right action is a waste of lexical construction....

This afternoon, I was brooding over a lot of events that has happened in my life. Was taking stock of how my journey in life has been while sitted within the confines of my room. Yesterday, being 1st October 2015 marks the 55th year Nigeria gained her independence and we all know how the trend of events has been in this country ever since. See, this piece of writing is not about the complexity of Nigeria nor any of her complicated problems, rather my question today is directed to no one but you. Our country gained her independence long time ago and every 1st October, she reviews and reevaluates her budgets so as to know where she stands. "Where are you?" is a rhetorical question that you don't just laugh over and give the first answer that comes to mind. You need to sit, sober reflect, contemplate and critically analyze the answer that comes to your mind. What have you achieved so far? What tremendous impact have you made in the lives of people around you? Are you i...