YOUR SKIN, YOUR TRUE IDENTITY .

I chose to begin this way...
Black- destitute of light; devoid of colour; enveloped in darkness, hence utterly dismal or gloomy; as the future looked black; soiled with dirt; foul; sullen; hostile; foully or outrageously wicked; as black cruelty; indicating disgrace, dishonour etc
White- colour of pure snow; reflecting all the rays of spectrum; opposite of black; free from spot or blemish; innocent; pure; without evil intent; harmless; honest; square-dealing; honourable…
This is copied from the famous scene of Malcolm X (1992) where young Malcolm, during his time in prison is made to read the definitions of these two words as written in a dictionary. What i wonder is, how much are these definitions of two words, still valid in a world of 7 billion inhabitants.

Truth be told, we come in all kinds of shades available. Yet only the lighter skin gets prized and is seen as the ideal(isn't that true?). We do not question ‘why’, because it is our own mind-set to be blamed, but we are here to wonder why and how have we, the darker ones (referring to everyone, even if lighter than Caucasians) have come to accept it unconsciously and feel embarrassed to embrace our own natural colour, let alone take pride in it.
Sceptics as always raise eyebrows whenever we try to discuss colour. When we say- Fat n’ Proud, they ask- What’s next? Bald n’ Proud? Big Belly n’ Proud? Small boobs n’ Proud? They wonder what fun we get out of making an issue where there is none. That whether a small harmless crayon really caused us ‘emotional trauma’ or was it just an attempt to get publicity?
The problem, which our sceptics sadly fail to realise, is colour in our society is not just skin deep. The quantity of melanin affects our lives throughout. True, you do not lynch one for being black, but do remember whenever you are praising a girl’s beauty for being so fair, at the same time you perhaps are destroying the confidence of her best friend, standing in her shadow, for being too dark. This confidence is then again shattered when one looks for a bride for their beloved son who has to be fair-skinned, in presence of his darker sister. Or when actresses whom you once considered your role-model, succeed in the industry only when they start bleaching their skin to look fairer.

Is this ‘confidence’ thing that important? Don’t we have issues of poverty, illiteracy, starvation etc. to look out for? Then why do we need another issue to be made out in this country? Nevertheless, the issue of confidence is a gigantic one that can't be laid aside. Let's remember, our skin colour is our true identity. There's a reason for that amount of melanin in your skin. Admire it, appreciate it, and acknowledge it.

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